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If I can’t be content here and now, I can’t be content anywhere any time. Because being content is not upto external resources it is something that is a state of mind. We might desire something in the future, we might think its what would make us happy then, a state of change from what we are now based on materiality. But we forget that with that mindset when we do get to that ideal future we will have another ideal setup just as quickly further ahead in time. Progress is of no use if there is no contentment. Yes, inadequacy is what leads to progress and drives actions, but to wholly give all our energies to inadequacies and not acknowledge that what we have can also make us feel content is a road paved with misery.


When we hate our existing phones and keep cursing it day in day out while saving up for that shiny new piece on the market we are habituating our brains to hating what we currently have. When we choose to see only the good parts of someone’s affluent or adventurous life and poison our living by feeling trapped in it as if it has nothing good to offer, we train ourselves to keenly delve, any bad that will ever happen to us in any situation. And so it goes on and on. You can live a better life in the future only if you know how to appreciate the better parts of your life right now, to be gratuitous and also to understand that some time in the future you will miss what you have right now and will have little access to getting here.

Doing one thing by definition excludes the countless other things that you could’ve done in that time. Thus, joy is felt only when you feel within you that the thing you are doing right now is more important than the other things possible.


I recently learnt from the excellent book 4000 weeks by Oliver Burkeman that the word ‘Decide’ comes from the latin word decidere, which literally means to CUT - OFF. To decide then is to mean not to choose something but to cut everything else off.


So when you Cut Off, make a clean cut best you can. So that the only thing that remains is the one important in the moment. There will be countless other things equally important but you have to choose and stand by the one you have cut off.


“Many of us don’t realize the moment we are born we are marching towards death” - Reinhold Messner (paraphrased from the film 14 peaks)


Living is a process, dying is its inevitable outcome. You die because you are living. What you do of your living is the only thing you have in your hand.


In the process of living there are many choices you can make with the constraints you’ve been born with. But its important to question if the constraints are actually out there or are made up by your mind. We could fear to choose something and call it a constraint, we could be lazy or too comfortable to choose a direction and call it a constraint. We can lie to ourselves long enough to make a truth up in our minds. We are capable of all these things, but what amongst them allows us to live a fulfilled life is something we need to ask. Does this act that we are doing, serve us?


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